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Friday, December 28, 2012

Workout Pick-Me-Ups! 13 Motivational Fitness Quotes from Top Trainers


1. “Don’t be the first to quit!”

Donald Hunter, a fitness instructor in Rochester, NY, shouts this out at the crest of a cardio blast. “It’s a personal challenge to get people over that mental hurdle,” he says. “The mind often runs out of steam before the body’s done, and if you push past that hurdle you can become stronger.”


2. “You know what that extra 10 pounds feels like!”
Liz Cort, founder of TeamFitMom.com, makes her clients wear a 10-lb. vest for their entire training session. When they shed that extra baggage, she says, “it keeps them motivated to work hard and eat clean!”


3. “2 Legit 2 Quit!”

“Let’s go! I’m talking here and now…!” “Gonna Make You Sweat!” “Don’t Stop!” “Sky’s the Limit!”
Trainers will often belt out popular song lyrics to inspire the class. When fatigue hits, “follow the music and let it take you where you want to be,” says Lynn Anderson, MD, creator of the Aero*boga(TM) workout method.

4. “We’re in this together!”

Jessica Smith, co-author of the Thin in 10 Weight Loss Plan, reminds her students that she’s pushing through the burn right along with them. “Stay with me,” she urges them. “Think about how good we’re going to feel when we’re done!”


5. “Surrender to your breathing!”

Inhale, exhale, repeat is key to hanging in when yoga gets tough, says Tamal Dodge, star of the new Element: Yoga for Energy & Relaxation. “The breath will carry you through the intense physicality.” She also reminds her yogis: “When you want to give up…that’s when your yoga really begins!”


6. “Make this plank your b*tch!”

In other words, show the moves who’s boss. Pilates pro Lara Hudson, star of The 10 Minute Solution: Tighten & Tone Pilates, says a little attitude can go a long way. “Come on, you’ve faced greater hardships than this little old plank,” she tells the class.


7. “Oh yeah! I can!”

Buns of Steel’s Tamilee Webb starts this call-and-response cheer to stoke her students during a rigorous workout.
Dr. Anderson asks for this cheer halfway into her classes. “I remind them that a good yell burns extra calories,” she says. “It keeps them engaged and pumps up the energy.”


8. “If it doesn't feel hard, it isn't.”

You can hear Amy Dixon screaming this tough love out on her Motion Traxx Treadmill Coach audio workout “I tell my students I’m not asking for much,” she says. “I’m just asking for everything.”


9. “Nobody ever regrets working out.”

“This line makes my students smile, and work a little harder,” says Dr. Anderson. “I remind them they did the hardest part, getting to class, and now they have a choice: make it a chore or have some fun.




10. “Results begin at the end of your comfort zone.”

This mental picture from Cort gives her clients the stamina to bust out of their plateau -- and into the calorie-burn zone. As Hunter says, “The body must have challenge to change.”



11. “Don't work harder, work deeper.”

Zip your core. Scoop your belly. Engage your abs. “Working deeper” is Hudson’s way of summoning the core strength that’s essential to Pilates practice.


12. “This is your time to see what you’re made of.”

Hunter busts out this line near the end of class. “I try to radiate energy like a rebounding board,” he says. “I give it to my students and expect to get it back.”

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Miss & Mrs


Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Unique Home Organization Ideas


Home Organization Ideas: Up and Away

Installing a wall-mounted cube shelving system gives plenty of space for storing odds and ends in assorted containers.


Home Organization Ideas: Orange Pop

Painting the interiors of shelves a bright orange highlights the shapes of white ceramics and storage containers.



Home Organization Ideas: Modern Library

An expansive shelving system dominates the look of this masculine, modernly furnished living room.



Home Organization Ideas: Flexible Arrangement

Modular shelving can be adjusted and rearranged according to your specific storage needs.


Home Organization Ideas: In the Box

Open shelving is kept neat and tidy with uniform storage containers.



Home Organization Ideas: Save the Date

Creating a giant monthly calendar on a chalkboard-paint wall helps everyone stay on schedule.


Home Organization Ideas: Showcasing Sets

Open shelves proudly display a museum-worthy collection of white ceramics.



Home Organization Ideas: Book End

Storage is tricky in a long, narrow space; columns of built-in bookshelves at the end of the room are an ideal design solution and attractive look.



Home Organization Ideas: Patchwork Effect

Mix bedding in different patterns and shades of blue for a homey and whimsical look.



Home Organization Ideas: Shipshape

Glass-door cabinets keep the kitchen feeling light and airy. Plus, it means you can find what you're looking for, without all the searching.



Home Organization Ideas: High Contrast

A mirrored chest hides clutter and a pedestal sink boosts the glamour of a sleek black-and-white bathroom.

Cute Alert! Jessica Simpson's Sweetest Family Photos


Growing Family! 

It's official! Jessica Simpson and Eric Johnson -- parents to 7-month-old Maxwell Drew -- are awaiting their second bundle of joy. After weeks of speculation, Simpson confirmed the news on Christmas Day with an adorable Twitpic of her baby girl sitting in sand next to the words "Big Sis." The fashionista wrote, "Merry Christmas from my family to yours." On Nov. 28, a source told Us Weekly, "It definitely wasn't planned -- she really is overjoyed!" 


Grateful Girl

Jessica certainly has a lot to be thankful for this year. "I am so grateful for my new lil family!" she tweeted on Nov. 22, sharing a photo of her fiance and their daughter. "Happy Thanksgiving everyone!" But we didn't need that tweet to tell us how elated she is -- Jess' best friend already spread the word. "She’s just in the happiest place I’ve ever seen her in," CaCee Cobb told iVillage recently. "Even on her worst day, she’s still so happy. If things get hard or rough, she’s just like ‘I’ve got Maxwell and I’ve got Eric. It’s never gonna be that bad.'"


Playing Dress-Up

We'll get to Jessica's cute costume in a sec -- first let's talk about her amazing body! The new mom revealed her dramatic weight loss, sharing a family photo via her website on Halloween. Jess looks amazing in cinched-waist corset, while her fiance rocks a Braveheart costume and baby Maxwell is dressed as a fluffy chicken!


New Territory

Jessica may look calm and collected, but she still has her moments of doubt. "I think all moms just wanna make sure that they’re doing everything right, the new mom, who tweeted this adorable shot on Sept. 19, tells iVillage. "You can try and get all the information you can, but you really don’t know [what it's like] until you have them in your arms and you take them home."


Splish-Splash

The new mom captured this sweet pic of Eric splashing with their daughter in the pool. "The two loves of my lives," she posted on Oct. 7. Aww!


Doting Dad

Former NFL player Eric Johnson may have been a tough guy on the field, but when it comes to fatherhood he's a big softie. "The way he loves her, and the way he kisses her on head -- you can just tell that he wants to protect her," Jessica tells iVillage. "It's made our love deeper, and I know that Maxwell’s gonna be a daddy’s little girl just from watching the two of them interact."


Beautiful Bond

There's always a learning curve for first-time moms. But Jess' friend, Rachel Ashwell (who designed Maxwell's nursery), insists that it was a pretty easy transition. "You can just tell that for her, the mothering piece is natural," the Shabby Chic founder tells iVillage. "It’s how she’s wired."


Setting the Bar

Jess captured her man spending time with his little girl on his 33rd birthday and tweeted the pic on Sept. 19. Her BFF CaCee Cobb says Eric is such an attentive (and handsome!) father that he makes other women jealous! "He’s amazing as a dad and he’s totally raised the bar amongst all of our friends," CaCee tells iVillage. "I tell my fiance [Scrubs star Donald Faison], I’m like, 'You’re gonna be like that with our kid, right? Cause I’d be devastated if you weren't!'"


All Together

Jessica is known for her feminine style, but that doesn't mean the fashionista (who tweeted this family photo on the Fourth of July) won't let her sporty fiance have some influence on their daughter. "Before the baby was born Jessica was like, 'You know, she’s not gonna be athletic. She’s gonna be wearing heels. She’s gonna be a girlie girl,'" says BFF CaCee Cobb, who's Maxwell's godmother. "But now that she’s here, Jessica would love to see her in sneakers, I’m sure. Just not all the time."


Mama's Girl

When it comes to her little girl, Jessica always wants her to be comfortable with who she is. "I live in a world that puts a lot of expectations on me," says the singer (pictured in N.Y.C. with Eric and Maxwell on Sept. 9). "I never want my baby girl to grow up feeling that. To grow up feeling like she has to be something that’s expected."


Dream Big

Maxwell can rest easy knowing that her mom will always have her back. "I’m gonna let Maxwell do what she wants to do," says Jessica. "I’ll definitely encourage education and school. But I want to help her start following her dreams because we start having them so young. I think it's important to encourage that from a young age that. Whatever you’re passionate about -- to go for it!"


Sleeping Beauty

If Jessica looks well-rested as she walks through New York's JFK International Airport on Sept. 11, it's because she's been getting her beauty sleep! "Maxwell has been sleeping through the night since she was a month and a half," she tells iVillage. "Everybody’s like, 'You are so lucky, you have no idea!' Maybe up until two months I would feed her in the middle of the night...But by two and a half months she was (sleeping) eight o’clock at night 'til seven in the morning."

 

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

The Gloves Were Off! The Biggest Celeb Feuds of 2012


Nicki Minaj vs. Mariah Carey

Battle of the divas! Tensions between the newly minted American Idol judges exploded in October, when a tape showing Nicki Minaj cursing out Mariah Carey during an Idol audition made its way onto TMZ. Multiple sources confirmed that Minaj threatened, “If I had a gun I'd shoot that f---ing b-tch” as she walked off the set, while an Idol source told People. Carey "has been saying little things to jab at Nicki from day one of shooting.” Bottom line? Millions will turn in to see the duo in action once Idol premieres in January.


Jon Hamm vs. Kim Kardashian

Mad Men star Jon Hamm infuriated reality superwoman Kim Kardashian when he told Elle U.K. that, “We're at a place where the idea of being ‘elite' is somehow considered negative. Whether it's Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashian or whoever, stupidity is certainly celebrated." Kim tweeted back that "we're all working hard and we all have to respect one another. Calling someone who runs their own businesses, is a part of a successful TV show, produces, writes, designs, and creates 'stupid' is in my opinion careless." Hamm later clarified his comments to E! News, saying he didn’t mean to dis her specifically. “What I said was meant to be more on pervasiveness of something in our culture, not personal.” Hmmm....is that explanation supposed to make things better?


Olivier Martinez & Halle Berry vs. Gabriel Aubry

In a Turkey Day shocker, Gabriel Aubry (Halle Berry’s baby daddy) and Olivier Martinez (Halle’s fiancee) got into a serious fist fight while Aubry was dropping off their 4-year-old daughter Nahla for the holiday. Tensions had been simmering between the trio for months, and Berry had recently been denied permission to move their daughter to France. Aubry filed a restraining order against Martinez shortly after the fight (which he later dropped) and according to TMZ the document claims Martinez screamed to Aubry during the fight "we called the cops," and that when they show up, "you're going to tell them that you're the one who attacked me, or I'm going to kill you." Gulp.


Wendy Williams vs. Beyonce

Wendy Williams managed to piss off her own audience -- and us! -- when she announced on her show that Beyonce "sounds like she’s got a fifth-grade education, she can’t talk." When the crowd booed she replied "excuse me, I just said I’m a fan but we have to call a spade a spade," and said she’d be turning on the closed captioning to watch Bey’s upcoming HBO documentary. No word from Sasha Fierce’s camp. This isn’t the first time the daytime host has questioned the pop diva. Last October, Williams speculated whether Beyonce’s baby bump was real, and the National Enquirer reported that those comments irked the expectant couple.


Piers Morgan vs. Madonna

The ongoing battle between Madonna and Piers Morgan has us asking just one question -- why? It appears the CNN host has a pathological hatred for the Material Girl, which he demonstrated earlier this year when he appeared on Chelsea Lately and trashed her Super Bowl performance. "It was like watching your mad drunken aunt at Christmas! She was gruesome. I don't like the woman, and she doesn't like me." He then got into a Twitter war with her manager, Guy Oseary. It appears their conflict dates back to Morgan’s days as a British tabloid editor, although Madonna’s rep claimed in 2010 that her Madgesty "doesn’t know who Piers Morgan is."


Chris Brown vs. Miranda Lambert

Chris Brown understandably racked up his share of enemies after allegedly beating on Rihanna, but we never would have guessed which one would be the most vocal: Miranda Lambert. The girl-next-door country star lashed out at Brown on Twitter shortly after the R&B singer performed twice at the Grammys and nabbed an award. "He beat on a girl ... Not cool that we act like that didn't happen,” she wrote, per Us Weekly. A short time later, Lambert disparagingly referenced him at a concert before singing a song about domestic violence. Brown shot back via Twitter, "Using my name to get publicity? I love it!"



Lindsay Lohan vs. Amanda Bynes

There’s nothing sadder than watching two formerly successful child stars reduced to troubles with the law and bitter sniping, but that’s exactly what happened this year between Lindsay Lohan and Amanda Bynes. LiLo lashed out at Bynes after the What I Like About You star was arrested for DUI and hit-and-run charges, tweeting "Why did I get put in jail and a Nickelodeon star has had NO punishment(s) so far?" Meanwhile, a Bynes pal told Us Weekly "she obsessively hates Lindsay." Meanwhile, Lohan’s troubles just got worse last month when she was arrested and charged with assault for allegedly hitting a woman in a nightclub.


Anderson Cooper vs. Star Jones

Star Jones can count the ladies of The View and half the cast of Celebrity Apprentice among her enemies, and this year she added another celeb to that elite list: newsman and daytime talk show host Anderson Cooper. Shortly after Cooper came out in July, Jones sniped on the Today show that he confirmed his sexuality "for ratings." Cooper later admitted on his show that her comments "did kind of annoy me" -- with reason, he then jabbed right back: "I seem to recall [Star] hocking her wedding every single day to get free products when she was on The View. Yikes! In response, Jones tweeted, "I was wrong. ‪@andersoncooper‬ didn't come out as a ratings ploy. He used ME talking about him coming out ‪@todayshow‬ as a ratings ploy. ‪#mybad‬."


Jaleel White vs. Kym Johnson

Everyone’s favorite nerd Steve Urkel, a.k.a. Jaleel White reportedly earned the nickname Jerkel backstage on Dancing with the Stars earlier this year for his not-nice attitude to pretty much everyone. Things came to a head in March when he reportedly lashed out at pro partner Kym Johnson after he stepped on her foot during a rehearsal and he thought she overreacted to the pain. Other dancers stepped in to diffuse the situation. White claimed the controversy was overblown and blamed the media (I’m not used to all this tabloid stuff) while Johnson said at the time, "this has been a stressful week for us, and people have stressful weeks."


Joan Rivers vs. Rihanna

Joan Rivers infuriated Rihanna after the pop star admitted to Oprah Winfrey that she still loves the R&B bad boy who beat her up. "Rihanna confessed to Oprah Winfrey that she still loves Chris Brown. Idiot! Now it's MY turn to slap her," Rivers tweeted. Rihanna wasn’t amused and shot back, "@Joan_Rivers wow u really do get slow when you're old huh?" She added a "Slap on some diapers" tweet for good measure. Rivers then got all grandmotherly on RiRi, tweeting “Honey, ‪@Rihanna‬, everyone knows: If he hit you once, he’ll hit you again. Read the statistics." But Rivers also extended the olive branch, tweeting that she’s welcome on Fashion Police anytime.

What To Get Your Guy: The Right Gift for Every Relationship Stage


He's your crush

You know what you're getting your mom and your BFF, but your man? No clue. You want it to be perfect -- but that means something totally different for a guy you've been seeing for two weeks than it does someone you’ve been dating for two years. Luckily, we found picks that send exactly the right message at every different stage in your relationship.


Your Strategy: Since he may not even realize you're into him, don't come on too strong. "Men like to be the ones doing the pursuing," says Diana Kirschner, PhD, relationship expert and author of Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love. But that doesn't mean you have to wait for him to make the first move: Keep things flirty and low-key by sending the lucky guy a funny e-card, preferably on a day when you're planning to meet up for drinks or dinner. Someecards.com has great options that will show off your sense of humor and give you something to talk about when you see each other later.


You're friends with benefits

Your Strategy: The term "hookup buddy" says it all: "It's really just a friendship where you happen to have sex," says Tublin -- so buy him something similar to what you'd get any other male friend. "Stay away from overly sexual gifts because those could be misinterpreted as, 'She wants this to be more than it is,'" Tublin says. A collection of artisanal beers is a solid choice -- maybe you can enjoy them together, maybe not. The important thing is that you show him that yes, you got him something, but you didn't put that much effort -- or thought -- into the gift. 


You've only been out a few times -- but you never know…

Your Strategy: Get him something that you can enjoy together -- and that will increase your chances of spending more time together, says Dr. Patty Ann Tublin, PsyD, relationship expert and author of Not Tonight Dear. We love the grown-up s'mores-making kit from Recchiuti Confections, which comes with nine hand-made vanilla bean marshmallows, eight graham crackers and a bittersweet chocolate bar (enough to make four s'mores). Guys like chocolate too, and while you may not find a romantic campfire, a chat around the fireplace (or even the microwave) not only invites him into your home, but helps get things a little toasty, too.


You've been dating regularly for a couple of months but aren't exclusive yet

Your Strategy: We're not suggesting you morph into Betty Draper, but it's not a bad idea to show off your domestic side. "Starting to do things in the home together adds a new texture to your relationship," says Ian Kerner, a sex and relationship expert and co-author of The Big, Fun, Sexy Sex Book. "You're adding another level of intimacy." This cocktail shaker from West Elm hits just the right note: It's retro-chic -- and sends the hint that you want him to invite you over for cocktails at his place more often.


You just became Facebook official

Your Strategy: You probably want to get him the most thoughtful, awesome gift ever -- but keep it more about the two of you than just about him. "You want to give him something that he'll enjoy, but that will also deepen your connection," Kirschner says. One idea you're both sure to "Like"? A massage for two! Getting pampered side-by-side will help cement your new status as a couple and leave you both in the mood for some of that crazy-hot new-relationship sex. Find a place that offers couple's massages near you at spafinder.com, and get ready to say ahhhh.


You just started saying “I love you” to each other

Your Strategy: Even though you just took your relationship to the next step, the "L-word" is not a reason to splurge. "That beginning 'I love you' time can be very scary for a man," Kirschner says. "Don't overdo it -- you don't want him to feel suffocated." Instead, focus on something you can bond over, like this Cooking Adventure of the Month Club that sends ingredients, a cooking or serving tool, and instructions for how you two can make a different "Destination Dinner" together each month. Think of it as date night delivered to your door (well, mailbox). Bonus: It takes the pressure off him to think up something brilliant to do all the time. Make it extra thoughtful by pairing your dinners with his favorite beer or cocktail.


You're thinking about breaking up with him -- but not until after Christmas

Your Strategy: In the interest of full disclosure, the relationship experts we spoke with do not, we repeat do not, recommend staying with someone you know isn't for you -- even if it is the holidays and it would be awkward to go stag to your parents' house for dinner, or you don't want to break his heart during the holidays. But if you seriously have to wait until after the holiday season, give him something practical but impersonal, Kerner says. He'll definitely use a pair of earmuffs that double as headphones, for example, but there's nothing sentimental about them -- and well, that's kind of the point.


You've been together a year

Your Strategy: This is when you can -- and should -- start thinking about getting him something more personal, Tublin says. "At this point in your relationship, there's a sense that you could be in it for the long haul, and your gift should reflect that." A luxe wallet is intimate, and it also appeals to his practical side. Instead of a card, slip a sweet note inside so he'll be reminded of you every time he opens it. You can even get it engraved with his monogram for a personalized touch.


You've been dating for years and you're out of ideas

Your Strategy: Want to know the secret to keeping that crazy-in-love feeling going strong for years? Sharing novel experiences together, Kerner says. "I'm a big fan of a date that moves a relationship forward for this stage in your life as a couple," he says. Give your man -- and your relationship -- a lift by signing the two of you up for a private airplane or helicopter ride. Your man is guaranteed to love it, and the thrill of being up in the air together will help you two feel more connected than ever.


You recently moved in together

Your Strategy: Now that you share an address (and the bathroom, the comforter and the remote control), make sure he knows that you don't expect him to give up his own interests, too. "This is the time to get something that's all about him, not something for the two of you," Tublin says. A couple of hot new Xbox 360 games (we recommend Forza Horizon and Halo 4) communicate that you know he still needs his man-space sometimes. Earn even more cool points by writing a card suggesting that he invite his buddies over for a man-cave game night -- and you make something for them to munch on before hitting the wine bar with your gals.


You're long distance

Your Strategy: "When you're apart, it's easy to forget what the high of being together feels like," Kirschner says. While talking on the phone and Skyping can help you feel close, maintaining your physical connection is a little harder. That's where the boudoir photo shoot -- where a pro takes sexy photos of you in your skivvies -- comes into play: Since your man can't see you strip down any time he wants, this is a (so much classier than sexting!) way to turn him on even when you can't be around. If you're skittish about having sultry photos of you floating around, there's an easy fix: Just ask the photographer to keep your face out of the shot.


You've been dating forever, but he hasn't proposed yet

Your Strategy: This wine set offers a pretty straight-forward symbolism that (hopefully) your man will pick up on: drink this bottle with me now and drink this other one with me in 10 years. When you give this to him, it hints that you want to be a permanent fixture in his life: "Something that's meant to be enjoyed for years to come communicates that you see yourself in his future -- and you hope he sees you in his, too," Kerner says.


You just got engaged

Your Strategy: If there's one time you can get away with giving your guy something a little mushy, this is definitely it. "Do something to commemorate this special milestone," Tublin suggests. We love the idea of asking an artist to turn a photo of you and your hubby-to-be into an original painting. Just pick one of your favorite pics of the two of you, and send it to the artists at Your Art Now. It's a nice way to display a special time in your relationship permanently in your home -- so you never forget it!


You're newlyweds

Your Strategy: You know what they say: The first year of marriage is the hardest. So pick up a just-for-the-two-of-you hobby! We suggest a fun activity that even the most athletically-challenged can handle: riding (retro, matching) bikes. Hey, you guys are so cute at this stage in your relationship that you don't even care how absurdly "couple-y" that is. Add in a picnic lunch for your first trail ride -- followed by some hot quickie action in the car before heading home.

You just bought a house together

Your Strategy: Contrary to what you might think, men have a nesting instinct, too -- it just manifests itself in the urge to buy Weber grills and 3D TVs instead of throw pillows and rugs, Kirschner says. Help him feel right at home in your new space by investing in something indulgent that you know he'll love. We suggest a hammock: It will instantly transform your backyard into his own personal oasis. (No need to tell him that you also plan to read the new Emily Giffin novel while lying in it...)


You've been married for a few years and want something fun

Your Strategy: Unfortunately, you can't get him the Channing Tatum-esque physique that we know he (and you!) really wants for Christmas. Sorry! But you can give him a gift that will make you see each other in a sexy new light -- like a wine or food experience! "Learning something together is a great way to reconnect, and there's something especially sensual about bonding over food," Kirschner says. Cloud 9 Living offers walking food tours, chocolate-making classes, private wine tastings and more -- all designed to bring you closer, while you learn more about the vino and grub you both love. Check their site for local prices and places.


You just had a baby

Your Strategy: Of all the things you worry about as new parents, the last thing is house-cleaning. So prevent marital distress (or at least a few fights) during this delicate time by giving him a gift that will resolve the whole "Who's going to vacuum?" argument. The iRobot Roomba 650 is a cleaning robot that will do the chore for you. Now if only they would invent a robot to change the baby's diaper…


You're going through a rough patch

Your Strategy: It's hard to feel romantic when you're so caught up in cleaning the bathroom, shuttling the kids from school to violin lessons to soccer practice, cooking dinner, and -- oh yeah -- that little thing called work. Life's craziness is a big part of the reason that every relationship has its ups and downs -- and it's also why Kerner says it's so important to treat your hubby and yourself to a vacay when you're going through one of those downs. "Ideally you want something that provides stimulation and novelty, but also the chance to relax together," he says. "The key is to get away so you can actually talk together, have fun, and -- most importantly -- get close again." We love SniqueAway.com for city destinations that provide the perfect mix of fun activities and restorative amenities -- without breaking the bank.


You've been married for 10 years

Your Strategy: At this point, your kids are probably a little older and you're savoring taking back at least a little more just-the-two-of-us time. Encourage the "we" time (and help keep peace in the house) with a wireless home stereo system you can control with your iPhone. Sonos lets you decide what music is played in each of your rooms -- so your girl can listen to One Direction in her bedroom while you and hubby can sway to jazz music in the kitchen. Or, he can jam out to Led Zeppelin in the garage while you queue up some Adele while taking a bath -- making couple and personal time easy. Now doesn't that sound good?


You're in a sex slump

Your Strategy: "When you're in a rut in the bedroom, getting your guy a sexy gift shows that you understand how important the physical aspect of your relationship is and that you're really prioritizing it," Kerner says. So -- even though we know you’re too cool to ever be spotted in public toting a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey -- it might be time to make like Anastasia Steel and experiment with some Christian Grey-worthy moves between the sheets. An erotic kit inspired by E.L. James' infamous novel makes spicing things up easy: It includes everything you need for a (non-scary) bondage-themed night, like ribbon cuffs, a blindfold, a soy wax candle (for melting onto each other), and even a copy of the book to check out together.

The World's Most Dangerous Countries


If tomorrow morning Africa and the Middle East simply vanished, you have to wonder what would happen to the State Department functionaries who write the travel warnings at travel.state.gov. The poor people would have little to do all day. Of the 28 travel warnings issued in May, 12 were for African nations and 7 were for countries in the Middle East.

You won’t be surprised by some of the countries on the list—or the reasons for the warnings. We’re talking about Al-Qaeda terrorists in Lebanon, suicide car-bombings in Algeria, and attacks on the U.S. Embassy in Yemen. Sudan is noted for its assassinations of two U.S. Embassy staffers and the conflict in Darfur. Political unrest, rebel roadblocks, street crime—the warnings are as plentiful as they are disturbing.

The State Department posts travel warnings when “protracted conditions” make a country dangerous, according to Michelle Bernier-Toth, director of the department’s Office of American Citizens Services and Crisis Management. “The whole purpose is to make sure people have enough information to plan their travels overseas.”

What you may not know is that many of these countries, despite their failings, market themselves aggressively as tourist destinations. True, they don’t do much of that salesmanship in the United States. But elsewhere, at travel trade shows and in glossy brochures, many of these dangerous—and perhaps not-so-dangerous—places celebrate their attractions, ignore their shortcomings, and generally try to impress travel agents, tour operators, travel writers, and average vacationers.

At the 2009 ITB travel show in Berlin, for instance, the country of Yemen, on the Arabian Peninsula, had a booth where promoters were playing traditional music and offering complimentary maps showing tourist highlights (the capital city of Sana’a, for example, is a UNESCO World Heritage site). What the promoters neglected to mention was the violence in 2008 directed at the U.S. Embassy and tourists.

Of course, not all the countries on the State Department warning list are trying to be the next Bali or St. Bart’s. Poor little Burundi is still mopping up from its late civil war, for instance. The Central African Republic has its hands full with a nasty little rebellion in the north, not to mention a plethora of highway bandits on the Berberati-Carnot-Baoro-Bouar-Bozoum road. Somalia is better known for pirate ships than cruise ships.

Yet plenty of countries are trying to cash in on the profits—and good public relations—that tourism can provide. But just because a country is listed by the State Department doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s hazardous to your health. You’re not likely to be mugged in Eritrea, murdered in Iran, or carjacked in Uzbekistan. And there can be plenty of upsides to visiting a “dangerous” country: Eritrea, for one, has everything from Art Deco buildings to a scenic railroad and a gorgeous coastline.

So do these places deserve your business, or merely a fleeting glimpse of your rapidly disappearing backside? It’s not always an easy call. The State Department warnings can be as commerce-inhibiting as a big-time critic’s pan of an overhyped Broadway turkey. On the other hand, if your safety is at risk, those travel warnings could save your life.

To go or not to go? That’s the question.


Pakistan

The Allure: For decades, visitors have trekked in the Karakoram range, hunted wild boar, climbed the rock faces in the Hindu Kush, and investigated the architectural antiquities of the Indus Valley.
The Warning: The travel warning recommends avoiding all nonessential travel due to terrorist activity. Al-Qaeda and Taliban presence is potentially dangerous to Americans in particular. In 2008 alone, more than 60 suicide bombings killed more than 1,000 people. Pakistan’s armed forces are fighting militants in the North-West Frontier and elsewhere. Many other areas are closed to non-Pakistanis.
Go or No? The State Department warning is apt: Don’t plan a trip, at least for now. Still, the Pakistan Tourism Development Corporation in Islamabad can provide a list of tour operators.

Sudan

The Allure: Dip your toes into the confluence of the Blue Nile and White Nile, choose one hump or two at the camel market in Khartoum, and visit the Meroë pyramids.
The Warning: The ongoing slaughter and starvation in Darfur and the recent indictment of Sudan’s president for war crimes give a clue to what you can expect here. In January 2008, two American Embassy employees were assassinated while driving in Khartoum. In recent years, Americans and Europeans have been victims of robberies and carjackings. The State Department warns against all travel to Sudan.
Go or No? Seriously?(Nevertheless, all the danger isn’t stopping Raidan Travel & Tours in Omdurman from operating.)

Georgia

The Allure: Georgia, tucked between Turkey and Russia, has been described as the Alps meet the Mediterranean, offering everything from winery tours to heli-skiing.
The Warning: As a result of the five-day war following Russia’s invasion in August 2008, numerous unexploded shells remain in the former war zone around Gori. U.S. citizens are advised against traveling to the separatist region of South Ossetia and to remain in close contact with the U.S. Embassy. Political demonstrations are potentially violent.
Go or No? If Russian-Georgian relations improve (or at least if Russian tanks aren’t gunning their engines at the border), a trip is definitely an option. To go, contact Georgica Travel, a Tbilisi-based tour operator.

Lebanon

The Allure: Sightseeing highlights include the ancient temples of Baalbek, the eighth-century Umayyad ruins of Anjar, and the wineries in the Bekáa Valley.
The Warning: Lebanon occupies the hot seat between Israel and Syria, and the State Department urges Americans to avoid all travel here. Hezbollah militants stage frequent roadblocks, and violence in Tripoli has claimed more than 30 lives since August 2008. Al-Qaeda is present in the country. Land mines and unexploded ordnance are rife in the south. The U.S. Embassy can’t promise you assistance if you need to be evacuated.
Go or No? Beirut’s comeback as the Paris of the Middle East was crippled by the 2006 war with Israel. We’ll postpone a visit until it once again becomes a safe, cosmopolitan destination, along with the rest of the country. If you feel differently, though, you can go with the Beirut company Wild Discovery.

North Korea

The Allure: The Democratic People’s Republic of Korea (DPRK) will let you visit the Victorious Fatherland Liberation War Museum, the Revolutionary Martyrs Cemetery, the Monument to Party Foundation, and the captured USS Pueblo(though plenty of spots are, of course, off-limits). Plus, you can sleep in the traditional style (on the floor) at Kaesong’s Folk Hotel.
The Warning: Travelers enter and return via China, so two visas are required. Crime is rare, but that doesn’t mean you’re free to do as you choose. Foreigners’ movements and conversations are monitored, particularly for religious and political activity, and there’s no U.S. diplomatic presence. The DPRK is not on the State Department warning list, but the U.S. has imposed trade sanctions.
Go or No? If you’ve already been everywhere else and have nowhere new to visit, get a ticket for the DPRK through Koryo Tours in Beijing. Otherwise, play it safe.

Syria

The Allure: Syria has one of the most important mosques in Islam, the Umayyad Mosque. You can also visit bedouin camps in the desert and Roman ruins at the Palmyra oasis.
The Warning: For more than 30 years, the United States has labeled Syria a state sponsor of terrorism. The past decade alone has seen car bombs, assassinations, an attack on the U.S. Embassy, and violent anti-Western demonstrations.
Go or No? Not for the foreseeable future. Yet those with a sense of adventure can travel with Damascus-based Nawafir Travel & Tours.

Yemen

The Allure: Visit the old city of Sana’a, the capital—a UNESCO World Heritage site—then head out to see bizarre and beautiful flora on the offshore island of Socotra. Elsewhere, you’ll find palaces and vineyards.
The Warning: The State Department recommends that American citizens defer nonessential travel to Yemen. The U.S. Embassy in Sana’a was attacked in September 2008, leaving an embassy guard dead. A convoy of tourists was attacked in January 2008 by suspected Al-Qaeda terrorists; two Belgian travelers were killed. The security threat level in Yemen is high.
Go or No? This will not be the Year of the Tourist in Yemen—you should probably stay away. But if you’re lured by the forbidden, contact Shibam Tours in Sana’a.

Uzbekistan

The Allure: Travel the ancient Silk Road cities of Khiva, Bukhara, and Samarkand. Go on camel treks in the desert and visit historic mosques.
The Warning: The State Department urges caution when traveling here because of a perceived potential for terrorist attacks or localized civil disturbances. However, there has been no such violence since May 2005.
Go or No? Using common sense and a lot of pre-trip research (including updates at travel.state.gov), a smart traveler should be able to visit the ancient sites of Uzbekistan with minimum risk. Contact Sitara International in Tashkent.

Iran

The Allure: From museums in Tehran to historic mosques and palaces in Esfahan, the ancient ruins of Persepolis and eight UNESCO World Heritage sites, there are plenty of reasons to visit.
The Warning: Compared with other safety cautions, the State Department’s warning for Iran seems tepid. “U.S. citizens [should] carefully consider the risks of travel to Iran.” The warning specifically mentions Americans of Iranian origin, who may be “targeted by authorities.” The United States has no embassy in Iran, but the Swiss Embassy in Tehran has a “U.S. Interests Section.”
Go or No? Violence is possible in areas where local ethnic groups have been oppressed, but Americans who avoid those areas (and any anti-U.S. protests) should have no trouble. Contact Arg-e-Jadid Travel Co. in Tehran.

Algeria

The Allure: Top attractions include cave paintings in Tassili n’Ajjer National Park in the Sahara; camel trekking; the well-preserved Roman ruins of Djemila, Timgad, and Tipasa; and the crumbling Casbah, or old city, of Algiers.
The Warning: The State Department restricts the movement of embassy personnel in Algeria because of suicide car-bomb attacks, kidnappings, and assassinations aimed at foreigners. U.S. citizens who travel there should follow “prudent security practices” such as maintaining a low profile and “avoiding predictable travel patterns.”
Go or No? Come with me to the Casbah?Not this year. But if you insist, contact Touareg Voyages in Tamanrasset.

Afghanistan

The Allure: Tombs, historic tea houses, ancient market towns, and the country’s first national park are all worth your time. Afghanistan’s director of tourism (yes, that’s right) says many of the country’s old castles and archaeological sites will one day be repaired and open to visitors.
The Warning: Americans are strongly warned against travel to Afghanistan. Much of the nation is a war zone. Foreigners are key targets for kidnappings and terrorist attacks. “Carjackings, robberies, and violent crime remain a problem,” says the State Department travel warning.
Go or No? When peace comes, Afghanistan’s director of tourism may find himself busy. But not yet. In the meantime, hard-core adventurers can contact Pamir Travel in Fremont, CA.

Eritrea

The Allure: Eritrea, on the Horn of Africa between Sudan and Ethiopia, has Art Deco buildings in Asmara, a scenic railroad from the coast to the Rift Valley, and water sports on the Red Sea coast.
The Warning: Eritrea declared independence from Ethiopia in 1993, and bad blood has existed between the two ever since. The State Department’s warning seems to be concerned less with crime and terrorism against Americans than with the face-off of troops at the frontier.
Go or No? Foreigners are restricted in where they can travel. Getting a visa can be a hassle. There are few major tourist attractions. It’s a toss-up whether a visit is worthwhile, but interested travelers can contact Damera Tours in Asmara.

Burma (Myanmar)

The Allure: Play Kipling on a cruise down the Irrawaddy River, enjoy hot-air ballooning over ancient Bagan, and wander the market stalls in Yangon, the capital.
The Warning: Burma is ruled by a ruthless military junta that is suspicious of foreign visitors. Travelers should assume their activities are being watched. Routine medical care is inadequate. There is no State Department warning on Burma, but U.S. Treasury sanctions ban the import of Burmese souvenirs or gifts. Burma is a cash society, so don’t plan on using credit cards, ATM cards, or traveler’s checks.
Go or No? This place is for the very adventurous traveler only. The Myanmar Tourism Promotion Board in Yangon can provide a list of tour operators.

Iraq

The Allure: Iraq is simply one huge museum, with 10,000–12,000 important archaeological and historical sites, depending on who’s counting. Among the highlights are the site of ancient Babylon, the first-century ruins of Hatra, and the 4,000-year-old Ziggurat at Ur.
The Warning: Suicide bombings, grenades tossed onto cars from overpasses, land mines placed in roads, rockets and mortars fired at hotels: Is it any wonder the State Department travel warning says Iraq is “very dangerous”?
Go or No? Unless you’re with the U.S. government or military, consider Iraq off-limits. Nevertheless, Atlas Travel & Tourist Agency in Amman, Jordan, can get travelers in.
















World's Scariest Borders


It should have been just a regular border crossing. But in 2009, an ESL teacher who blogs as "Nancy O." had an experience that was anything but. While she was crossing from Zarumilla, Peru, to Huaquillas, Ecuador, two locals offered her a lift to the bus station, but instead took her on a harrowing car ride where she feared for her life. Fortunately, Nancy was able to run from the vehicle and find an immigration officer, who helped her across the border. "I was lucky to get away," she wrote on her blog, Women Travelling Alone.

Among travelers, the Ecuador–Peru border area has a special reputation for being scary. "It's one of the most dangerous I've encountered," says Craig Heimburger, editor of the travel blog Travelvice.com. "It is not to be undertaken lightly."

Yet this South American border is hardly alone in offering potential frights. At borders around the world, travelers face intimidation, misinformation, fake exchange rates, inflated prices, rigged calculators, counterfeit notes, robbery—and, yes, even kidnapping and violence.

Unless they stick to carefully choreographed group tours, travelers—especially those who stray from the beaten path—may well find themselves in a sticky border situation. The problem may be banal (border guards who demand a "tip" in exchange for doing their jobs), but it can be genuinely dangerous (taxi drivers in cahoots with armed bandits waiting in the shadows). Experienced travelers will remain calm and expect to pay some sort of premium for their passport stamps, but still be ready for the unexpected.

While some borders are intentionally made scary by conmen well-practiced at shaking down tourists, others are political hot zones that can explode on short notice and ensnare unwitting travelers like Venus flytraps.

Then there's the infamous Darien Gap, which has earned its reputation as one of the world's scariest borders. Because it separates Panama and Colombia, this 1,000-square-mile area should be a heavily trafficked trade route between Central and South America. And it is, of a sort: the nearly impassible jungles and swamps are ruled by armed guerillas, paramilitary groups, and drug cartels. (Not to mention filled with man-eating snakes, poisonous insects, and dengue fever.) It's just as well that no proper roads run through it. Overland travelers trying to follow the Pan-American Highway are forced to stow their vehicles on a cargo ship for about $800.

If you're heading into a remote area, read up on the potential border pitfalls. Knowing what the scams are may allow you to sidestep any problems. "Understanding the crossing beforehand is one of the best ways to come out of it unscathed," says Heimburger. But, he adds, your guidebook may not be enough. "Some still haven't updated their editions with enough detail," he says, "so those who aren't researching online and socializing on the road can be caught off guard."


 Colombia + Panama

The jungle between Panama and Colombia, known as the Darien Gap, is a nearly impassible territory of undeveloped forests and swamps that’s ruled by guerilla and paramilitary groups. It’s just as well that no proper roads run through it. There’s barely more than a path fit for a rugged motorcycle or well-armed off-road vehicle. Sane people enter Colombia via air or from Panama City to Cartagena by boat.

China + North Korea

Even after two American journalists were sentenced to 12 years of hard labor for illegally crossing into North Korea from China in 2009 (they were eventually freed), foreigners continue to fall afoul of overly anxious border cops. In August 2010, President Jimmy Carter had to fetch American Aijalon Mahli Gomes, who may have crossed over on a personal humanitarian mission. Dying to see North Korea? Visit the tourist-friendly Demilitarized Zone that separates the two Koreas, where you can legally walk on northern soil—at least for a few minutes.

Burma + Thailand

The only way to legally enter Myanmar for an extended visit is by air from Saigon or Hanoi. For visitors entering overland from Thailand, short-term visas are issued for “visa runs” and regional travel only. Travelers who enter at Tachilek, for example, are required to stay within the eastern territories—and exit within 14 days. Push your luck on this border, and you’ll find yourself on the wrong end of an AK-47 and maybe arrested as a spy. Activists sneak into Burma under cover of night—at great risk to themselves—to provide medical aid and education to the country’s displaced ethnic minorities.

Pakistan + Afghanistan

A crucial trade route for centuries, the Khyber Pass connecting Afghanistan and Pakistan through the Safed Koh mountains is at once fabled and formidable. Getting there is half the scare, thanks to tales of Taliban ambushes and other military actions claiming innocent bystanders. And even if you avoid armed attack, you’ll have to contend with Pakistan’s famously erratic truck drivers.

Iraq + Iran

While it’s technically legal for Americans to travel to certain parts of both Iran and Iraq, the U.S. government strongly recommends against either. One wrong step along the extensive but poorly marked border, and you may find yourself imprisoned in Tehran. Just ask Sarah Shourd, who, with two other Americans, was hiking in Iraq’s Kurdistan region. As Shourd told the New York Times, a soldier gestured to the trio. When they walked over to him—inadvertently crossing the unmarked border—they were arrested as spies. Her companions remain in custody.

Eritrea + Ethiopia

Ten years after two of the world’s poorest countries engaged in a devastating war, relations between Eritrea and Ethiopia remain tense, to say the least. Violent skirmishes along the still-disputed border aren’t uncommon, and many observers worry about larger military conflict. On a continent with its share of scary borders, the U.S. government officially advises against crossing this one—for any reason.

 Russia + Ukraine

The overnight train from Kiev to Moscow probably isn’t very scary—if you’re a stoic Ukrainian accustomed to this route’s famously crime-ridden trains. But even Ukrainians find this overnight trip a bit jarring due to thefts. And it can be a long, intimidating night if staunch young men with firearms shake you awake angrily to demand your papers. One bad joke, one wrong answer, or an imperfectly prepared visa—and you may be left at the next platform. And mind the thugs.

Ecuador + Peru

Travel writer Craig Heimburger describes the road connecting Huaquillas, Ecuador, and Zarumilla, Peru, as a “kill zone between immigration offices,” thanks to the many criminals who prey on frightened travelers. In the most common scare tactic, a “helpful local” warns travelers of disruption from a workers’ or teachers’ strike. The scam artist then offers to facilitate the crossing for a fee. Shakedowns from border guards aren’t unheard of, either. As always, discretion rules the day. Cross using a reputable bus company such as CIFA—not in a taxi, not on foot.

Kenya + Somalia

According to United States Agency of International Development (USAID), the border between these war-torn countries is a product of “state failure, lawlessness, and communal violence.” This is pretty much the scary border trifecta. Armed conflict in the region is a function of profiteering, not the “pursuit of victory.” No wonder the U.S. State Department continues to issue specific warnings about this border.

Saudi Arabia + Bahrain

Every weekend, the King Fahd Causeway is packed with wealthy Saudis (and their chauffeurs, of course) anxious to take advantage of Bahrain’s liberal nightlife. This 16-mile-long, narrow highway is the sole overland entry into this small island country in the Persian Gulf. If the madcap rush of 60,000 badly driven vehicles (every weekend!) isn’t scary enough, then being treated like a spy by the CID, Bahrain’s version of the FBI, at the border station on embankment number four should do the trick.